Mentoring expectations

For relationships to be strong, individuals need to know what expectations they have of each other. This step is often skipped, leading to disappointment and disengagement when one or both parties inevitably fails to meet the "unstated" expectations. Assuming that we know what the other wants in a relationship is far less reliable than clearly stating expectations. The place to clarify expectations in mentoring pairs is in the orientation phase. While common expectations for proteges may be for the mentor to share any suggestions they have, be a sounding board for proteges ideas, or simply to stay in touch, there may be other more specific requests that the protege or the mentor has. There may be unique ways in which the protege best learns or experiences new things that only an intentional conversation will uncover. There may be talents and skills that the mentor can bring to bear, but isnt sure if sharing these at this time is in best service to the protege. In the fast paced world we live in, and in our desire to be helpful, we may miss this most crucial element to building strong relationships for any purpose; that is to clearly articulate expectations for the mentoring process, from both the proteges and the mentor's perspective. From these expectations then, the quality of the mentoring process can be continually measured by how well mentoring has met the stated expectations. Share your experiences about the impact of clarifying expectations on the quality of the mentoring process.
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